When Happiness is Overtaken by Joy

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The Problem: Individualism and the “hustle,” a term that seems to be at the center of pop culture vocabulary these days, may be overrated? David Brooks, New York Times columnist, presents a thought provoking view on this topic in an column entitled “The Moral Peril of Meritocracy.” He describes the nature of two mountain lives. “People on the first mountain spend a lot of time on reputation management. They ask: What do people think of me? Where do I rank? They’re trying to win the victories the ego enjoys…These hustling years are also powerfully shaped by our individualistic and meritocratic culture. People operate under this assumption: I can make myself happy. If I achieve excellence, lose more weight, follow this self-improvement technique, fulfillment will follow.” Brooks goes on to describe the lives of the people where something happens to interrupt the linear individualistic, ego-focused existence they had imagined for themselves. For most but not all, this involves a low point or valley that ideally eventually leads us to what Brooks describes as the “second mountain.” Brooks continues: “I can now usually recognize first and second-mountain people. The former have an ultimate allegiance to self; the latter have an ultimate allegiance to some commitment. I can recognize first and second-mountain organizations too. In some organizations, people are there to serve their individual self-interests — draw a salary. But other organizations demand that you surrender to a shared cause…”

Story: I’m hearing some interesting commentary about my “unretirement.” I announced a formal retirement from one organization in August 2018, and now have decided to take on a role with another, well past the age my father formally retired, or the so called official “retirement age.” Some of the comments I hear: “Haven’t you had enough? Earned enough? Can’t you just be happy doing nothing?” etc. I don’t know if I qualify as a second mountain person according to Brook’s assessment, but I know I am driven by purpose and contribution. I love being in service to others. Whether I receive recognition for working that way is not important to me. And while I don’t do it for free, I don’t look to find the biggest paycheck either. I agree with Brooks when he says: “On the first mountain we shoot for happiness, but on the second mountain we are rewarded with joy. What’s the difference? Happiness involves a victory for the self. It happens as we move toward our goals… Joy involves the transcendence of self (devoting to purpose and others)… On the second mountain you see that happiness is good, but joy is better.”

What we can do about it:

  1. Understanding the difference between being personally driven for self/accumulation versus purpose/service, is an important part of each of our climbs.
  2. Leading in an organization requires us to understand why “deep purpose” is vital to meaningful progress.
  3. Consider Brook’s conclusion: “Over the past few decades the individual, the self, has been at the center. The second-mountain people are leading us toward a culture that puts relationships at the center. They ask us to measure our lives by the quality of our attachments, to see that life is a qualitative endeavor, not a quantitative one. They ask us to see others at their full depths, and not just as a stereotype, and to have the courage to lead with vulnerability. These second-mountain people are leading us into a new culture.”

Think Big, Start Small, Act Now,

Lorne

One Millennial View: I personally find nothing immoral or culturally wrong with individualism and meritocracy. I consider it a great motivator. I simultaneously understand that first mountain achievements will not bring total fulfillment. Luckily for us, these aren’t real, physical mountains, and I think we can find ways to explore both. If we’re keeping with the mountain analogy, while the views are potentially more joyful on the second mountain, you still need enough first mountain experience to buy climbing equipment. And you certainly shouldn’t scoff at first-mountain folks, because that’s a steep, tough climb that not everyone can ascend. Both trails are just fine, I guess the only bad choice is to stay at basecamp and never attempt to hustle or find a way to serve others.

– Garrett

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Lead In With Lorne – Why Having Fun at Work is so Vital

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In this episode of Lead In With Lorne, we’re discussing the importance of having fun at work. In the aftermath of April Fool’s Day, Lorne shares his story of pranking a group of professionals during his recent experience at Unreasonable Future 2019, their reaction, and how incorporating laughter and fun in your organizations helps create successful environments.

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Hot Topic Friday: April 5 Newsletter

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Happy Friday everyone! Here are some Hot Topics that caught my attention this week.

Hot Topic 1: Stop Asking Kids What They Want to be When They Grow Up.

Source: NYT and Adam Grant (Wharton professor and one of my favorite folks). 

What its About: Asking kids to define what kind of career or job they want versus the type of person they can become, may cause unnecessary angst. The world of work and career is continuously transforming in front of us. Adults may not even know what becoming a doctor, lawyer, astronaut (etc.) even means, let alone asking the young what they want to do. Focusing on this question can mess kids up in terms of what’s most important relative to personal aspirations?

Why its Important: Grant highlights three concerns with the “…be when you grow up?” question: “When we define ourselves by our jobs, our worth depends on what we achieve; Although having a calling can be a source of joy, research shows that searching for one leaves students feeling lost and confused; careers rarely live up to childhood dreams.” Becoming a wonderful human being and successful whole person on the other hand, calls for different and perhaps better questions. As Grant concludes: “I’m all for encouraging youngsters to aim high and dream big. But take it from someone who studies work for a living: Those aspirations should be bigger than work. Asking kids what they want to be leads them to claim a career identity they might never want to earn. Instead, invite them to think about what kind of person they want to be — and about all the different things they might want to do.”

Hot Topic 2: Procrastination is Not About Self-Control.

Source: Charlotte Lieberman.

What it’s About: Why do we procrastinate and what can we do about it? Lieberman does a superb job digging into this question. It’s not as straightforward as simply having more self-control. According to the article: “‘It’s self-harm,’ notes Dr. Piers Steel, a professor of motivational psychology at the University of Calgary and the author of ‘The Procrastination Equation: How to Stop Putting Things Off and Start Getting Stuff Done.’ People engage in this irrational cycle of chronic procrastination because of an inability to manage negative moods around a task.”

Why it’s Important: I believe procrastination is a stinker of a problem for many of us. In fact, we procrastinate while learning why we procrastinate. Putting off stuff we know needs to get done makes us feel lousy, and gets in the way of forward movement. The research emphasizes: “We must realize that, at its core, procrastination is about emotions, not productivity. The solution doesn’t involve downloading a time-management app or learning new strategies for self-control. It has to do with managing our emotions in a new way.” Read the article for other great suggestions. Or, you know, you could just put it off?

Hot Topic 3: Newly Elected Mayor Makes History in Chicago. 

Source: Chicago Tribune and Bill Ruthhart

What it’s About: Lori Lightfoot becomes both the first African-American woman and openly gay person elected mayor of Chicago, and in doing so, hammered the political establishment that has reigned over City Hall for decades.

Why it’s Important: This is not a political newsletter. It’s about culture and leadership. So I want to emphasize the important victory for inclusivity in a top leadership role; what the world needs more of. As Lightfoot exclaimed post winning: “A lot of little boys and girls are out there watching us tonight, and they’re seeing the beginning of something, well, a little bit different… They’re seeing a city reborn, a city where it doesn’t matter what color you are, where it surely doesn’t matter how tall you are and where it doesn’t matter who you love, just as long as you love with all your heart.” The other reason it’s important is that we learn more about what drives real transformation and that is ENERGY. Neutral ambivalence rarely causes meaningful change. High positive or negative energy does. People in Chicago felt high levels of negative energy towards their political establishment.

And finally! Here’s Cecil’s Bleat of the Week!

Modern technology certainly has made life easier, but it’s also made it easy for people to isolate themselves from opposing views, critical thought and even each other.” – Douglas Rushkoff, Team Human.

Bye for now!

– Lorne Rubis

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Culture Cast – Why Storytelling at Work is so Important

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In season 3, episode 9, Lorne and Lynette discuss the importance of storytelling to make WOW statements and accomplish your objectives in your professional and personal lives.

It’s tough to convince people by just providing the data. It’s much more effective when you can relay the information through an emotional connection by crafting a memorable story.

From Bill Gates exposing his TED Talk audience to actual mosquitoes while sharing his story on curing malaria, to countless presentations that present compelling data alongside great stories that really hit home. How can you better utilize storytelling to accomplish your objectives and goals on a professional and personal level?

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We look forward to sharing Season 3 of Culture Cast: Conversations on Culture and Leadership with you every Wednesday. 

How Long Will You or Your Job Last?

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The Problem: There is a massive transformation of work underway, and too many people are on the sidelines watching. I’m honored to be contributing at the Unreasonable Group’s Future Conference for selected entrepreneurs and mentors. Companies that can scale to address the world’s biggest problems are here, and there are a number committed to addressing the fact that talent is universal, but success in matching to opportunity is often restricted. They are building powerful platforms to take the issue head on.

Story: Employers are feeling the urgency of not having enough workers with digital competence, including but not limited to data scientists, developers, software engineers, social media experts, and much more. They also want people with more refined “soft” skills that reflect high EQ to compliment digital competence. Government is recognizing that necessary employment policy may be lagging. Traditional education is slow to respond and not very creative overall. People are fearful that their jobs will be displaced by machines and/or become irrelevant. They are right. And new jobs are emerging very quickly without people to step up.

Today I worked on a prototype that would be like Spotify for upskilling or reskilling. It was a cool example of how platforms like this are going to transform our continuous drive and need for everyone to upskill and/or reskill.

What we can do about it?

  1. Recognize that NO job or person is immune, and consciously invest in upskilling or reskilling.
  2. Consider reinventing yourself with urgency.
  3. Look to leading organizations/solutions that may be unorthodox. Go to where the jobs are going to be and squire the requisite skills ASAP!

Think big, start small, act now.

– Lorne

One Millennial View: I often think about how the curriculum at the journalism school I attended is likely 80 or 90 percent different now than when I graduated in 2009. It’s a little scary to know that hundreds of much younger students are learning skills that we didn’t even know about back then. Although I don’t have access to their learnings exactly, it’s part of my job to educate and reskill myself as much as possible so I can continue to compete.

– Garrett

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Lead In With Lorne – Stop Guessing and Try it Out Fast

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In this episode of Lead In With Lorne, I’m here at 1440 Multiversity in Santa Cruz, CA, where I had the privilege of hearing from Google X co-founder Tom Chi. His message was: Have less guess-a-thons at work, and don’t only hear from the highest title or loudest contributor attending our meetings. Instead, find the bright spot, and have the mindset to try things out and prototype as fast as possible. It’s less about failing fast, and more about learning fast. Take the guessing out, prototype something as fast as you can, in hours rather than weeks or months.

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